2020 Wrapped: A Survivor’s Perspective
As we get closer to the New Year, we begin to think of all the resolutions we want to put in place. This concept may look like making goals to make an appointment with a counselor, begin volunteering your time with a local organization, or simply finding an activity that helps you self advocate. As survivors, it’s understandable to crave personal healing, as well as justice with the hope that no one is violated ever again. It’s the pressure put onto oneself, craving control over a situation in which there was none. No matter the scenario, I want to confirm that those feelings are valid in every way.
2020 was far from easy. With the pandemic, therapy sessions became virtual, and quality time with support systems became impossible to attain physically. In addition to this, some survivors found themselves being in close proximity to their abusers due to quarantine restrictions. Not having that space to simply breathe, and dealing with the anxiety of not being able to predict what came next was a familiar fear that was known all too well. I wish I could sit here and write with assurance that 2021 is going to be perfect. But the fact is, that the journey after trauma fluctuates, and will continue to do so as the world heals.
The healing process is unique for each person, and has several definitions because of that. While one strategy may work for one person, doesn’t mean that it will work for all. Healing isn’t as simple as a checklist, and that is something to keep in mind, especially if you plan on creating some resolutions for yourself. Create a list of goals with grace, and know that it’s alright if things don’t go as planned. The fact that you are thinking about the future is proof that you are trying to cope, and that effort matters.
If you are reading this, it means you have survived the year, as well as everything that has happened in between. You took each week one day at a time, and having the strength to do so, shows. Through the grief, moments of joy were found and cherished. As we prepare for a new chance at midnight, perhaps it may bring comfort to reflect on the past. Grant yourself permission to pause and be thankful for all the things that helped you get through.
3 Reflection Prompts
Who in your life are you grateful for, and how have they recently supported you?
What are you most proud of achieving this year? Based on this, how did this accomplishment change the way you viewed yourself?
What was the best piece of advice you received, and how was your experience applying it in your life?
The future is now. And while it’s impossible to predict what may happen next month, or next year, you can control the love you show yourself in this moment. You are a survivor of many things, and we at Cor-a are proud of your strength and courage. We can’t wait to see all the amazing things you achieve this New Year, and we’ll be here to support you every step of the way.
3 Self Care Prompts
What is something you’ve done in the past that you should forgive yourself for? What would that forgiveness look like?
What are you grateful for that your body can do and why? What physical and inner traits do you love the most about yourself?
Describe a time when you shared something heavy with someone, and they made you feel safe. What signs were present that made you feel supported and heard?
